How many times have you found yourself asking this question? If you are anything like me, it’s probably at least several times a week. Well, one day during my morning commute, I had a WHY ME epiphany. I was facing a very challenging situation at work (can you relate?), and couldn’t understand why it was happening to me. I was not looking forward to this particular day and repeatedly asked myself WHY ME??? But then, just as clearly as I asked, the Spirit spoke and posed that question to me, but spelled it out. WHY ME: What’s Hindering You from Maintaining Excellence?
It was an aha moment because in that instant, I realized that the answer to my complaint actually lie within the question. The solution to my WHY ME could be categorized into 3 areas: Skills, Mentoring, and Network.
Do I have the required skills to do what I desire?
If you are not achieving the results and outcomes that you desire, one of the first things to consider is if you have the necessary skills. You may have the degree, but do you have the practical experience? Perhaps you are the recognized expert in your area and are technically sound, but are your interpersonal skills keeping you from progressing? Whatever the case, if you find yourself continually missing the mark, an honest inventory of your skillset, as well as the competency of those skills, will greatly assist you in answering the WHY ME.
Do I have appropriate mentors to advise me?
Having a mentor is something that I’ve always had and valued as a part of my personal and professional development. When you realize that no great person has attained success on his/her own merits, you appreciate that having a mentor can be a valuable asset to achieving your goals. In fact, most successful people have several mentors– yes, it is perfectly acceptable and advisable to have multiple mentors. A mentor is someone who teaches us those little nuances about how to best navigate our journey to reach our goals. She/He not only has knowledge about an area, but provides advice based on her/his experiences in that area. If you find that you keep running into a brick wall, then perhaps it’s time to seek out someone who can assist you. (Note: there is a difference between a mentor and a coach, but that will be the topic for a future blog!)
Do I have an established network to support my goals?
Networking is about exchanging information towards building mutually beneficial relationships. Yes, the emergence of Social Media has provided a new avenue for establishing a network, but please remember that a network is more than a set of names. It’s great to have 500+ followers on Linked In, but if you do not have some type of relationship established, then all you have is a list of names. The value of a network is in its access to information–about people, places, and opportunities. It doesn’t matter how great your skillset or how much mentoring you receive, having a solid network is probably the most important solution to WHY ME.
What is your WHY ME? Are you experiencing a situation that seems like there is no way for you to possibly be successful? Are you stagnant in a job where you are unmotivated and just going through the motions day in and day out? Maybe you are finally ready take that bold step towards your dream but just don’t know where to begin. Do you ever find yourself observing the progression of others who are seemingly doing the same things that you are, but wonder why you are not getting similar results?
What ever the case, the next time you find yourself asking WHY ME, ask yourself: What’s Hindering You from Maintaining Excellence?